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Tuesday, May 28, 2013   Jeff Lampl

"Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ”
Ephesians 5:21  

It’s a huge shock.

A man spends twenty or thirty years living a life that’s all about him, his needs, his hopes, his dreams and then he makes a commitment to this woman who has spent twenty or thirty years living a life that is all about her, her needs, her hopes, her dreams. And then these two people get married and are together in one house every day for the rest of their lives! And God says make it work! What a plan!

This is either a disaster waiting to happen or a brilliant plan by God to grow us human beings up!
Actually it’s both.

So the apostle Paul introduces the greatest teaching on Marriage on planet earth (Ephesians 5:21-33) with the words “submit to one another.” Do you know any couple who does this consistently?  

Which is why Paul adds, “out of reverence for Christ”. It is only as husband and wife each, like spokes on a wheel, humble themselves before Christ, and as they grow closer to Christ, as they also grow closer to each other, they are then empowered to humble themselves before each other.  

So, before asking how it’s going in your marriage, the better question is how are you doing in your submission to Christ?