It's Valentine's Day!

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Friday, February 14, 2014   Jeff Lampl



“(Love) . . . . Always looks for the best” 
  1 Corinthians 13:7 (MSG)

So . .  . .here’s what to do today.

Don’t just try to make this a special day.  For some, trying to make it special actually means making this day an anomaly.   It’s like trying to make at least one day of your marriage decent when the rest is actually really lousy.

Instead, make today different.   Before you see each other when one or both come home from work, repeat today’s passage over and over and over again.   Be a little bit blind and assume the best about your spouse.   He has never been out to disappoint you intentionally.  And she and isn’t all about intentionally putting you down.  

Deep down most of us seek the best even when anger and other emotions get in the way.   So today, assume the  best and begin a year long process of  V.I.M.

V = Vision.
Picture what God seeks for your marriage.   A marriage that is one, one in which each grows the other and which becomes a witness to the reality that a God created marriage is the greatest witnessing tool that a couple can have.

I = Intention 

Be “on purpose” about becoming a “love is a little bit blind” spouse who defaults to assuming the best  about your partner.  And verbalize that assumption.

M = Method  

You need God’s help and God’s plan.  Marriage is really, really good at reminding us of this.   John 13:34, Ephesians 5:21, I Corinthians 13 (study it line by line – it’s earthy and gritty and real – not dreamy and touchy feely as it’s often portrayed), and Ephesians 4:29 are good for starters, but you also need others, the Body of Christ, worship, and a daily regimen of scripture reading and prayer.

Happy Valentine’s Day!         

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