"(Love)
bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all
things."
1 Corinthians 13:7 (NKJV)
1 Corinthians 13:7 (NKJV)
Sounds
a little bit like Co-dependency doesn’t it?
If I just keep on believing and trusting and bearing and enduring
doesn’t that make love blind and turn me into a potential doormat?
What happens when he comes home late night after night with nothing but
excuses and weak apologies? Do
I just keep on believing him? What
happens if she constantly says she’ll do such and such and never does it?
What do you do with the gap between expectations and behavior?
What do I do with the gap?
In
every situation we have two choices: believe
the best or assume the worst.
Your past may cause you to assume the worst every time he comes home late
(“what’s he doing that he’s not telling me”).
And his past may cause him to assume the worst every time you ask him
questions (“oh there she goes being critical again”)
So
what to do? Vs 7 above tells us to
practice believing the best. We
can believe the best or assume the worst. The
later turns us into distrustful cynics about our spouse.
The former, although carrying the risk of being wrong, not only frees
your partner from your condemnation (inward or expressed) but over time it can
change not only your attitude, but it can also set a tone in your relationship
which builds up, encourages, and can even create a “want to” in your partner
whereby he or she desires to live up to
your faith in them.
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