What does a kind life look like?
Friday, April 29,
2016
Mark Cirino
Mark Cirino
What does a life of kindness look like? Being kind to one
another is a really good thing. When someone does an act of kindness towards
me, it makes me feel really good. My heart is warmed, When I do an act of
kindness towards someone, it makes me feel really good. I am uplifted. As I
pondered these life-giving acts of kindness, I wondered what does a life of
kindness look like?
I thought of my mom who recently turned 82. She is quite
the character. Despite her nuances. Despite her idiosyncrasies. Despite her
preferences which is a nice way of saying her stubbornness. Despite all of
these, I love her dearly. One of the many reasons why I love my mom dearly is
because of her kindness. I admire her kindness. I use her kindness as a role
model for my life. Now, it’s not that she is the one who is always making a
meal for the neighbors, or running errands for other people. It’s not that she
doesn’t do these kind acts. She does do them. These are kind and good things to
do. But it’s much deeper. It’s who she is. It’s how she has lived her life –
with kindness.
My mom grew up in Japan during World War 2. This was when
she was around 10 years old. She remembers evenings when she, her 4 sisters,
her mother and father would be eating dinner and the air raid sirens would go
off. They would have to jump up from dinner and start running to the bomb
shelters which were caves dug into the mountain side. As they were running they
would hear the engines of the US bombers. They would see and hear the artillery
being shot at the bombers by the Japanese military positioned at the tops of
the mountains. Quiet a horrific experience for a 10 year old. As you can
imagine, she has many other stories.
Including that her father was killed when an US submarine that had snuck
into the Sea of Japan and torpedoed the ship that her father, who was a
civilian at the time, was on.
Here’s the thing though, my mom loves the Unites States
of America. She is very honored to be an US citizen. She admires and speaks
highly of our US Government and what this countries stands for. The Unites
States of America is her home. We can’t get her to go back to even visit Japan.
Why should she. As far as she’s concerned, Casapula’s makes the best Italian hoagies
in the world, and they are ten minutes from her house. Why leave?
How can this be when the country you love was once set
out to kill you, your family, and your nation? My mom could have become
hateful, sour, untrusting, and cynical. But
instead forgiveness has given kindness a place deep in her heart which then has
made her life a walk of love.
"Be kind to one another,
tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you."
Ephesians 4:32
BTW, about 10 years ago, my mom showed me a
little silver cross that she has carried in her purse since she was in her
early 20’s. She and my dad were in a small group. Someone in the small group
gave that cross to her. That was a kind thing to do. She said that she always
prays to Jesus for her children. So that’s over 50 years of praying for her
children. That’s a kind thing to do. That also brought to life for me the power
of prayer.
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