Impact of Helicoptering, by someone who
knows
Oct
20, 2015 @ 9:54 by Scot McKnight 0 Comments
“Point
your kids in the right direction— when they're old they won't be
lost.”
Proverbs 22:6 (MSG)
Proverbs 22:6 (MSG)
I
came across this important article titled, “Impact of Helicoptering from
Someone who knows”.
Hope it helps you to think through your parenting.
Jeff
Julie
Lythcott-Haims noticed a disturbing trend during her decade as a dean of
freshmen at Stanford University. Incoming students were brilliant and
accomplished and virtually flawless, on paper. But with each year, more of
them seemed incapable of taking care of themselves.
At the same time, parents were becoming more and more involved in their children’s lives. They talked to their children multiple times a day and swooped in to personally intervene anytime something difficult happened.
[How helicopter parents are ruining college students.]
At the same time, parents were becoming more and more involved in their children’s lives. They talked to their children multiple times a day and swooped in to personally intervene anytime something difficult happened.
[How helicopter parents are ruining college students.]
From
her position at one of the world’s most prestigious schools, Lythcott-Haims
came to believe that mothers and fathers in affluent communities have been hobbling
their children by trying so hard to make sure they succeed, and by working
so diligently to protect them from disappointment and failure and hardship.
[Another viewpoint: Why those annoying “helicopter parents" aren’t so bad after all.]
[Another viewpoint: Why those annoying “helicopter parents" aren’t so bad after all.]
Such
“overhelping” might assist children in developing impressive resumes for
college admission. But it also robs them of the chance to learn who they are,
what they love and how to navigate the world, Lythcott-Haims argues in her
book “How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare
Your Kid for Success.”
“We
want so badly to help them by shepherding them from milestone to milestone and
by shielding them from failure and pain. But overhelping causes harm,” she
writes. “It can leave young adults without the strengths of skill, will and
character that are needed to know themselves and to craft a life.”
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